I have yet to see this movie, mostly because it isn’t at the dollar cinema where I live yet, but after reading the book I’m scared it will not be as good as I hope. It’s a silly fear, but any time a book really gets me I feel this way. I’m someone who has read a lot of memoirs. They’ve been mentioned on my blog, writings from Kay Redfield Jameson, Ken Steele, Terri Cheney…they all affect me in such an honest and profound way. The effect of Silver Linings Playbook was no different. I absolutely loved being provided the perspective of Pat Peoples. Seeing his family through his eyes, the way he was treated through his eyes, and with his limited ability to read emotions was spot on for how I feel when I am in my own “bad place”. While he only mentions the bad place in reference to the hospital, I identified that with the bad place my brain escapes to when I’m not doing well. We all get trapped in ourselves, we all hold on to hopes that are unrealistic. The process of coming out of that is extremely similar for everyone, mentally stable or not. We have to shatter our expectations, anticipate our lives going in a different, learn how to accept that and grieve for what we thought we needed. While I wish I had known about this book much sooner, it was a perfect thing for me to read it while I’m in this time of my life. I identified with having uncomfortable personal relations at home in a way that might have been detrimental before I went to inpatient treatment in January. I don’t know what the result will be for me from this book and movie, I’m so susceptible to external forces. I ran away from home while reading Ken Steele’s book, Terri Cheney’s book started a manic phase, Night Falls Fast by Kay Redfield Jameson landed me in the hospital for sucidal ideation, but there are a number of things that I’m choosing to take away from this book.
- “If clouds are blocking the sun, there will always be a silver lining that reminds me to keep on trying.” – Giving up is not a real option. Life continues and sometimes you need to readjust your plans or thoughts, but dark times don’t always mean dark things coming.
- “Life is hard, and children have to be told how hard life can be…So they will be sympathetic to others.” – This is a lesson I very much want my child to learn. Everyone has their hard times, everyone has things you don’t know or understand. Kindness can go a long way.
- “You need to make time for your family no matter what happens in your life” – Family is family. Period. Sometimes it’s the family you create, rather than those you are born with, but it is always important to reach out and maintain a relationship with them. They will help keep you grounded, they will love you, they will try to understand.
- “When she needed help most, she was abandoned–and only when she offered help to others was she beloved.” – Reaching out to others in their time of need is vital for remembering there is suffering outside of yourself. People recognize true sympathy and kindness and will repay that with love and respect.
- “…I am now watching the movie of my life as I live it.” – Live life, don’t watch it pass you by. Be an active participant and be present in the moment.
- “I am practicing being kind over being right.” – Sometimes right isn’t important. Kindness works equally well for helping people understand things that are messy and not easy to comprehend.